At first glance, it didn't seem like there was any special skill to saying mean things about someone. You just insult their intelligence, their body, their identity, or their relatives. Any elementary school kid knows this, in addition to a vast and varied collection of Yo Mama retorts.
Thanks for writing. Not only for insights but I read your post also to learn writing. A touch of Paul G, I guess in this post.
Loved the echo of Tyrion wisdom too.
Tyrion: Let me give you some advice bastard. Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.
The older we get, the less sensitive we become to certain aspects... this is so true. Professionally, I would say that it is a mix of experience and safety in the workplace. When you feel that people trust in you, it is easier to overcome fears, realizing that there's nothing to worry about. This allows you to move forward and go further.
But as you said, this is a "work in progress" until the game is over. I usually have to remember what I have achieved and dedicate some minutes of positive self-talk when my insecurities or imposter syndrome appear.
As we age mentally, we're less sensitive to trolls, indeed. The sad thing is some older and more experienced people are still very triggered by senseless comments from random people, especially when it's something they hold dear to their heart.
It's a good reminder that at the end of the day, it's the opinions of people whom we care about that matter, not the hundreds or thousands "faceless" people that don't know us in our lifetime. Thanks for this reminder!
Another beautiful piece Julie! One approach that helped me to accept my imperfection is to focus on my strength. I am a fan of StrengthFinder. In 2013 I visited RackSpace's customer support center where each employee's badge is printed with his/her top strength. Each of them are more than eager to serve the customers by utilizing their strength. After that visit I have been using StrengthFinder for my org and myself consistently. Let's all focus on our strength, don't let the trolls win.
Thanks for writing. Not only for insights but I read your post also to learn writing. A touch of Paul G, I guess in this post.
Loved the echo of Tyrion wisdom too.
Tyrion: Let me give you some advice bastard. Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.
The older we get, the less sensitive we become to certain aspects... this is so true. Professionally, I would say that it is a mix of experience and safety in the workplace. When you feel that people trust in you, it is easier to overcome fears, realizing that there's nothing to worry about. This allows you to move forward and go further.
But as you said, this is a "work in progress" until the game is over. I usually have to remember what I have achieved and dedicate some minutes of positive self-talk when my insecurities or imposter syndrome appear.
As we age mentally, we're less sensitive to trolls, indeed. The sad thing is some older and more experienced people are still very triggered by senseless comments from random people, especially when it's something they hold dear to their heart.
It's a good reminder that at the end of the day, it's the opinions of people whom we care about that matter, not the hundreds or thousands "faceless" people that don't know us in our lifetime. Thanks for this reminder!
Another beautiful piece Julie! One approach that helped me to accept my imperfection is to focus on my strength. I am a fan of StrengthFinder. In 2013 I visited RackSpace's customer support center where each employee's badge is printed with his/her top strength. Each of them are more than eager to serve the customers by utilizing their strength. After that visit I have been using StrengthFinder for my org and myself consistently. Let's all focus on our strength, don't let the trolls win.